Finding Love After Loss (Weight-Loss, That Is!)

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Here’s another remarkable true love story in our Dating Advice for Women Series.  It’s a first-person account of finding love after loss by psychologist & weight loss guru, Dr. Donna Goldstein, who worked with one of our Love mentors® to find and marry her awesome husband over 7 years ago.  Here’s a photo of the newlyweds on their blessed wedding day!

By Dr. Donna Goldstein

My heart went to a heavy-set woman who recently posted the following on Facebook, “I am crushed,” she mourned.  Everything had been going great with this guy she had met online.  They had talked for hours, had good chemistry and she thought he might be close to finding love.  He had also said that she was very cute.  He then requested a date-stamped recent full-body picture of her.  She hesitated to send it, because, like a number of online daters, her 8-year old picture, which showed a medium build, did not reflect her current frame, some 75 lbs. heavier.  Upon seeing the picture, he responded with, “You’re a very nice girl, but not my type.”  This was just a little kinder way of saying, I don’t date bigger women”.

I experienced that reaction several times when I was heavier (and don’t forget “you have such a pretty face”.) Ideally, a man would love you for your heart and soul.  However, the harsh reality is that for many men, body type matters.  And even for a smart, kind, funny and exciting woman, this can still be a deal breaker.  Men and women have complained to me that when they did meet an online date in person, they were startled that he or she looked nothing like their photos presented on the dating site.  It seems that in our culture, finding love can depend a lot on size and weight.

As a 205 lb., size 16 “Rubenesque” (voluptuous) woman, I generally got 4 to 5 responses to any of my online postings.  After I lost 70 lbs. and re-emerged as a size 6, the number jumped to over 200.  My heart and soul were the same and so was my “pretty face”.  However, my new smaller size catapulted me into a more sought-after prospect and I am so grateful that in this group of potential suitors was my husband-to-be.

So here are a few dating tips for those committed to finding love online:

  1. Men are visual creatures. Worldwide, men show a preference for the “hourglass” figure.  Clothes, bras and belts that help you get the hourglass figure are one solution.  Getting to and remaining within your ideal weight range is however more ideal.  For most people this was your weight in high school or college.  It will improve your health and your odds of finding love and a great mate online.
  2. Embark upon an exercise regime that you enjoy for fun, toning and energizing. It will make you a more active, interesting person.  For example, you can try tennis, yoga, golf, or Latin dance.  My “hubby to be” noticed my active lifestyle, especially the yoga and belly-dancing.
  3. Your photos should be a reflection of who you are today. In the long run, an 8-year-old glamour shot will only hurt your chances.  You can still wear colorful clothing, show a sense of style and reflect a certain joie de vivre.

I close with a message of hope.  I was overweight and a “yo-yo” dieter for over 30 years. I met an amazing man online and was successful in finding love.  I asked Dr. Diana for an expert dating coach, followed Dr. Diana’s instructions and we are now happily married after a beautiful 2-year courtship. (As of September 2018, we have been married 5 years.)  This could happen to you.

 

Dr. Donna Goldstein, a 25-year veteran psychologist and Certified Health Coach, teaches a new way to eat and a new way to live, that can help you break the cycle of “yo-yo” dieting for good.  She has maintained her own 70 lb. weight loss for over 10 years and has helped her clients lose thousands of pounds with no drugs or surgery! She helps people worldwide.

You can learn more about Dr. Goldstein at www.BodyWisdomByDrDonna.com or text or call 954.292.8477 for your FREE Weight Loss /  Lifestyle Plan.

 

Dr. Donna’s 12 Healthy Lifestyle Tips

 

Hi. I’m Dr. Donna Goldstein. For those of you who aren’t familiar with me, I’m a psychologist and certified health coach. January was the nine year anniversary of my losing (and keeping off!) 70 pounds and I’m still a size 6. By following my secrets, tips and ideas, I’ve helped over 1,600 people all over the world lose weight, get healthy, sleep better and regain their vitality. Let’s get started!

I’d like to share with you 12 healthy lifestyle tips that will always serve you well.

My first question is: How do you feel? Are you sluggish and tired or do you feel healthy and vital? Have you spent time on a vision board setting your goals, being focused, keeping a journal to look at your goals? However you feel coming into this moment, I’m going to give you some tips that will help you feel much better in living a happy and healthy life!

1. Drink less soda and more water.

2. Less sitting and more standing and walking.

3. Add less salt and more spices and lemon to your food.

4. Drive less, walk or bike more.

5. Less meat and more vegetables.

6. Less canned, more fresh food.

7. Less worry, more prayer and meditation.

8. Less sugar, more fruit.

9. Less (or no) alcohol, more tea.

10. Less whining, more gratitude.

11. Less tv, more exercise.

12. I have some suggestions and a gift for you! I’ve put together a 5 day clean eating challenge. It’s free. All my friends, all over the world, can download a 25 page e-book that has tips, recipes and suggestions. Go to my website, www.bodywisdombydrdonna.com. Get yourself healthy!

I offer a complimentary 30 minute phone consultation for those who want to take their weight loss, health and vitality further. During the call we can discuss your goals, needs, values and budget. I’m sure I have a program or way to assist or support you. Remember that I was unhappy and struggled as a yo yo dieter for 30 years. Now you can be happy and healthy, too!

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12 Gifts for the Holidays from Dr. Donna!

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What is on your Holiday Wish List?  Here are 12 Healthy Gift Ideas!

If you or a loved one are focused on living a healthy lifestyle, skip the gifts of chocolates or wine! Your family, friends, or co-workers may not “get” your lifestyle goals and have no idea what to buy you. Here’s a list of amazing gift ideas, along with the links to help you find  the perfect gift!’

1. Yoga mat

What is better than to give the gift of life? The benefits of yoga are well- known for health and vitality. I recommend the Nirdami mat.  The carrying strap is so handy and makes you look like a pro! 

 

 

2. Water Bottle.

 I like my eco-friendly Swig Savvy water bottle. I  am someone that enjoys walking early in the morning, and in the afternoons, with my puppy. We are all aware of the importance of  staying hydrated, so this bottle can be really handy. It fits perfectly in my car cup holder and I can carry it in my bag all day!

 

 

 

Image result for ASICS Women's GT-2000 4 Running Shoe Aruba Blue/Safety Yellow/Aquarium3. Sneakers

Do you like to run or walk? Taking care of your feet and joints is the smartest thing to do when you are committed to being Image result for ASICS Men's Gel-Kayano 23 Running Shoe Poseidon/Flame Orange/Blue Jewelfit. Wearing sneakers with the proper cushion and arch support is critical to avoid injury. I find these sneakers to be the best ones for light to moderate exercise. Here is my recommendation for women and men.

 

 

4. Vegetable spiralizer

 Would you like  a healthier substitution for pasta? Try using  zucchini pasta instead.  I have a recipe that’s made with fresh tomatoes, and basil and a bit of Parmesan cheese. It always gets rave reviews. This vegetable spiralizer is the perfect tool for your kitchen and it will help you or your healthy friend create many delicious and healthy veggie dishes. You won’t even miss the pasta! Make sure they invite you for dinner to taste it!

Quooz Rockano 200ml Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier with Aromatherapy Essential Oil Diffuser and Adjustable Light Option5. Aromatherapy

I like to focus on a holistic approach when it comes to my health. This Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier with Aromatherapy Essential Oil Diffuser and Adjustable Light Option it’s an excellent gift to share. It smells wonderful and can be placed in your home,  office, or anywhere you spend time. It will help you relax and be more productive!

6. Yoga/Bellydance/Tai Chi /Pilates classes

My clients love the wide  variety of movement options  on my Body Wisdom program. Being active and enjoying  what you are doing is an essential part of a holistic approach to body, mind and spirit wellness. You can check www.bodywisdombydrdonna.com to schedule a private or group class with one  of our  fabulous instructors in person  or  via Skype.  Buy 3 get one free for the holidays!

Fitbit Charge 2 Heart Rate + Fitness Wristband, Plum, Small7. Fitness/Lifestyle trackers

The Fitbit Charge 2 Heart Rate + Fitness Wristband is  a terrific tracker. It has a dBellabeat Leaf Nature Health Tracker/Smart Jewelry, Silver Editionesign that you can wear all day, even at the event. It tracks steps, sleep and comes in  many great colors.

Several of my friends  have started to use the beautiful BellaBeat  tracker/smart jewelry. ( Get yours here!)  That’s on
my wishlist this year!

8. Gym Bag

Lotus&Go bag is perfect for situations where you need a quick change of clothes like  at the yoga studio, gym, beach, and sleepovers. Comfortably fit your toothbrush, toothpaste, shoes, phone, tablet, water bottle, yoga mat/blanket/towel & clothing, while not taking up a lot of room.

 

 

 

 

9. Wireless headphones!

For your friend who enjoys long walks or runs, or even to go around the house without bothering your family with your new belly dance music, this noise-canceling wireless headphone is the perfect gift!

10. Sport bottle smoothies machine.

Smoothie breakfast lovers, this is for you! Instead of having to transfer your smoothie from one container to another, this blender allows you to do it all. Blend and go to that yoga class! Get one here!

Image result for massage or acupuncture11. Massage or Acupuncture session(s)

With all  the stress  in your busy life, your body needs some renewal and  pampering. These are Image result for massage or acupuncture the perfect  ways to relax you. I  have  wonderful South Florida colleagues I can suggest. Also  asking your friends for recommendations is the best referral. This is a delightful  treat and many talented professionals offer great discounts during the holidays!

12. Body Wisdom  and other healthy lifestyle programs  by Dr. Donna

Make an appointment now. Give the gift of a lifetime– a lifestyle changing decision today for your loved one or for yourself. Body Wisdom by Dr. Donna  has helped over 1,600 people worldwide to lose weight, gain vitality  and they are keeping those unhealthy extra lbs. off!  The new year is the time for new resolutions. You are a click away to reaching your goals! Are you ready? Schedule a complimentary consult with me at www.bodywisdombydrdonna.com .

Wishing you and yours a year of great health and many blessings this year and always!

Dr. Donna Goldstein

www.bodywisdombydrdonna.com

 

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